Frequently Asked Questions


  • Is sex painful the first time?
    Penetrative Sex can hurt the first time but it doesn’t have to. If you are nervous, not turned on or haven’t done any foreplay, this might be more likely. To help prevent pain you can wait until you feel completely relaxed and take it really slowly. There is a myth that when you have sex for a first time, you ‘pop your cherry’ which refers to the hymen. The Hymen is a small piece of skin that partially covers the vaginal opening. It might tear with during sex or even during sport, but it can be stretched over time without any pain!
    To avoid pain; take it slow, use lots of lubricant, have lots of foreplay, make sure you feel ready!
  • Why does sex hurt?
    Pain during or after sex (dyspareunia) can be caused by many things, such as:Illness, infection, a physical problem, a psychological problem.
    If you get pain during or after sex, your body may be trying to tell you something is wrong, so don’t ignore it. See your GP or go to a sexual health (genitourinary medicine or GUM) clinic.
  • Is it normal to masturbate?
    Masturbation is completely normal and lots of people do it. People of all ages masturbate and it’s often the first sexual experience they have. Masturbation doesn’t cause any harm, either physically or mentally, even if you do it often. Your genitals may feel sore if you masturbate a lot in a short space of time so it’s important to take breaks!
  • How can HIV be transmitted?
    HIV is transmitted through the exchange of bodily fluids, such as: blood, breast milk and in the body fluid (semen, vaginal fluids) of an infected person.
  • Can you catch HIV from kissing?
    Although HIV can be detected in saliva, it can’t be passed to other people through kissing because a combination of antibodies and enzymes found naturally in saliva prevent HIV from infecting new cells.
  • How long do I have to wait before having an HIV test?
    A HIV test will only detect the virus four weeks after infection. Before this four-week period, the virus is not detected by a test. However, if you think you have been exposed to the risk of HIV, you should not wait for the four-week window period to pass before seeking help. People who have recently been infected with HIV often experience a short, flu-like illness two to six weeks after infection.
  • Why can’t I get and keep an erection?
    This is something that most men go through at one point or another and it’s usually nothing to worry about. It can often be a result of stress, tiredness, anxiety or drinking too much alcohol. However, if you frequently have this problem then it’s worth speaking to your GP.
  • Can premature ejaculation be controlled?
    Some things that might help are: masturbating an hour or two before having sex, using a thick condom to help decrease sensation or taking a deep breath to briefly shut down the ejaculatory reflex or even using specifically designed numbing creams. Often it just takes practice!
  • Should I be worried about getting pregnant?
    The menstrual cycle is complicated and by no means black and white. Different people have different cycle lengths and ovulate at different times. It’s also worth noting that sperm can survive in the body for several days, so even if you weren’t ovulating at the time of sex, there may still be a risk. You should always use contraception when you have sex, if you do not want to become pregnant.
  • What causes a woman to bleed after sex?
    Bleeding after sex can be a sign of a health condition: an infection, such as pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), or a sexually transmitted infection (STI), such as chlamydia, vaginal dryness (atrophic vaginitis) caused by reduced vaginal secretions after the menopause damage to the vagina, such as tears caused by childbirth, or by dryness or friction during sex, benign or non-cancerous growths in the womb or the lining of the cervix.
  • What can cause orgasm problems in women?
    Causes of orgasm problems in women can be physical or psychological and include: Not being stimulated sufficiently, being distracted by worrying or not feeling relaxed, depression and anxiety, problems with physical health, a previous traumatic sexual experience.
  • Can a man catch thrush from a female partner?
    It is possible for an outbreak of thrush to be triggered by having sex with someone who is suffering. In men, symptoms of thrush can include: redness, itching and irritation at the site of thick, lumpy discharge under the foreskin and/or pain when passing urine.
  • Are sex toys safe?
    You can buy sex toys if you are over 18. To stay safe, it’s important to clean them after each use and to avoid STIs by covering them with a new condom for each activity if sharing with a partner.
  • Am I masturbating too much and can it be bad for me? Masturbation is a normal, healthy part of human sexuality. If you feel like masturbation is affecting your social life or personal relationships, or causing injury to your genitals, you should cut down
  • Does anal sex have any health risks?
    Penetrative anal sex has a higher risk of spreading STIs than many other types of sexual activity. This is because the lining of the anus is thin and can easily be damaged, which makes it more vulnerable to infection. It’s best to use a condom every time.
  • I think I was sexually assaulted/raped…what should I do?
    If you have been raped or sexually assaulted or someone has done something sexual to you without your consent recently then the first thing you need to do is go somewhere you feel safe, such as the home of a close friend or family member. If you feel you’re able to, you should consider telling someone you trust what has happened or call an organization which supports the people who are rape. It would be beneficial to go to the hospital to do some tests and make sure you are safe from risk of STIs and unwanted pregnancy. It’s up to you if you would like to report it to the police but there are organizations that can help such as Cambridge Rape Crisis.
  • Is chlamydia only caught through sexual contact?
    YES, Chlamydia is only caught through sexual contact. Because it is a bacterial infection, it’s very easy to spread and often has no symptoms. There’s no way to tell if you have chlamydia apart from getting tested. Any kind of sexual contact can spread it. Chlamydia is the most common STI in UK and accounts for about 50% of all infertility as a result of being left untreated.

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