Am I Ready For Sex?

Deciding to have sex can be a really big deal and there are lots of factors that are important to consider. The age of consent in the UK is 16 but it’s against the law for someone in a position of power (e.g. a teacher) to have sex with someone under the age of 18.

Most young people in the UK don’t have sex until they are 16.

 

When making your decision, here are some really important things to consider:

  • Do you genuinely want it? if you decide to have sex, it should be for you and not to please or impress anyone else.
  • Does your partner want it? It’s important that they fully and enthusiastically consent to sex if you’re going to do it.
  • What protection are you going to use? Only condoms can protect you from STIs so using them is a must. It’s a good idea to go and talk to your GP about birth control if you are concerned about getting pregnant. You can get condoms free from Dhiverse, a sexual health clinic or from the C-card scheme.
  • Do you know about your own body? Do you have a general idea of what sensations you like or what you’d like to do with your partner? Knowing ahead of time can make things go more smoothly. Maybe create a “want, will, won’t” list!
  • Are you ready to handle the embarrassing bits? Bodies are complicated and things go wrong! Especially when you’re new to sex. It’s important to feel relaxed and comfortable with what you’re doing.
  • Do you feel comfortable talking to your partner about all these things? If you can’t talk openly about all of these things without laughing or being embarrassed then at least one of you probably isn’t ready!

If you’ve had a bad experience and want to talk about it, or if you want to talk over the decision to have sex, you can email Meg at meg@dhiverse.org.uk or text us on 07548960453.